I follow a few bloggers. A few have lots of followers (James Altucher), some a few (Brooke Farmer) and some in between. I have no followers yet and I'm not sure I care one way or the other. This is more of a writing exercise at this point.
One thing that impresses me if how open so many of these folks are about exposing their lives in print. James Altucher is a public figure yet he tells you just about every thing good or bad that ever happened to him. In intimate detail. Things that I might not tell in confession! In fact I know I wouldn't, I'll just take my chances in the afterlife.
James discloses all kind of details about his experience with women, former girlfriends, attempts at dating, ex-wife and current wife. For a guy that seemed to have a lifetime of failures with woman, he seems to have found his life/soul mate. Good for him.
Brooke Farmer is a young lady just coming into her prime years (her thirties) and is enthusiastically forging ahead into all kinds of relationship starts and stops as she looks for a compatible mate. She is a bundle of contradictions, a small town girl in the big city. A modern day "Mary Richards", a la The Mary Tyler Moore Show. She is a dreamer in the best sense.
Both of them, as well as other bloggers I follow, write about love and finding a balance in life. They write about their experiences in an honest, transparent way, warts and all. It's a real time look at their diary.
If this is what they share with the public, do they have any secrets? I have secrets. I'd share them with you, but then, well they wouldn't be secrets.
I've broken hearts and had my heart broken. My adult dating experience was a bit out of the norm. I married my childhood girlfriend at 19 and was divorced at 28 years old. So, I found myself as a late 20's guy with just about no dating experience (meaning little sexual experience to talk about) I was single until age 44 or so. So, those were prime years, I was doing well career wise and traveling all over the world for about 15 years. Life was pretty good sexually though I did miss the real intimacy of a long time relationship. Dating in the late 70's and 80's was a very promiscuous time. Sex on the first date was maybe a 50% chance (if you knew the person for a while before the date, maybe 100%) Sex on the second date, close to 100%. So, if I was a young guy today, I'd have quite a bit to blog about. However, I have never been open about my relationships. I can't imagine sharing all this information like people today do.
I wonder if the level of promiscuity is the same today as in my 20's and 30's. I could ask my daughter and nieces but that would be pretty creepy.
Getting back on point, is the openness of bloggers today a good thing or bad thing. Do their significant others get peeved at them disclosing intimate details about their lives? Do they tell them to put a sock in it at times?
Just wondering.
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